Debunking Common STI Myths

Why STI Myths Still Exist

Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are far more common than most people realize, yet many misunderstandings still exist. These myths can create worry, shame, and silence sometimes preventing people from seeking the care or support they deserve. Others may even blame themselves, believing an infection says something about who they are as a person.

But the truth is simple: STIs are medical conditions, not moral judgments. Anyone who is sexually active can be affected. This article gently clears up common myths, replacing fear with facts that promote confidence, compassion, and informed choices.

Myth 1: Only Certain People Get STIs

It is easy to believe that STIs happen only to people who are “careless” or promiscuous but that is just false. Anyone sexually active can be at risk. Every day, more than a million STIs are acquired around the world, and that includes people in committed relationships and those who take precautions. STIs can spread through oral sex, anal sex, and even skin to skin contact. When we assume only “certain” people get STIs, it increases stigma and keeps others from getting the testing or treatment they may need.

Fact: STIs do not discriminate. Anyone exposed to an infection can get one.

Myth 2: You Can Always Tell if Someone Has an STI

Many people think they could spot an infection just by looking at someone or noticing symptoms. This is understandable, but it is one of the most misleading beliefs out there. Depending on appearance alone can put people at risk. Most STIs have no symptoms for long periods of time. Chlamydia is often called the “silent infection,” HPV can go unnoticed for years, and herpes can spread even without visible sores.

Fact: You cannot tell if someone is infected by just their appearance. Regular testing is the safest and most reliable way to know your status.

Myth 3: Condoms Offer Complete Protection

Condoms are an excellent form of protection and show care for both partners, but they do not eliminate all risk. They work well for infections spread through bodily fluids like HIV or gonorrhea but some infections, such as herpes or HPV, can spread from skin that a condom does not cover. This does not make condoms any less valuable. They are still one of the best form of protection we have for reducing risk.

Fact: Condoms greatly lower risk, but the best protection comes from combining condoms with testing and open communication.

Myth 4: Once Treated, You Cannot Get the Same STI Again

Some people assume once they have been infected and treated they are protected forever. In reality, treatment addresses the infection, but does not make you immune. STIs like chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis can recur, especially if a partner has not been treated.

Fact: Treatment clears the infection, but does not prevent future exposure. Each encounter deserves protection.

Myth 5: You Can Only Get an STI Through Intercourse

Intercourse is not the only way STIs spread. Oral sex, anal sex, and even close skin contact can transmit infections such as herpes or HPV. Sometimes all it takes is skin to skin contact or shared fluids. Understanding this helps people choose the right type of protection for the activity, such as condoms or dental dams.

Fact: STIs can be transmitted through various types of contact. Awareness helps people stay safer.

Myth 6: Having an STI Ends Your Sex Life

Receiving an STI diagnosis can feel overwhelming, but it does not mean intimacy, connection, or happiness are out of reach. Today, many STIs are completely curable, and those that are not can still be managed with treatment, communication, and care. For example, people living with HIV who maintain an undetectable viral load can take measures to prevent transmission of the virus to partners. Symptoms of herpes and HPV can be managed in supportive and healthy relationships as well.

Fact: An STI does not define you. With treatment and honesty, you can maintain fulfilling relationships and a vibrant sex life.

Myth 7: I Don’t Need To Be Tested if My Partner Already Tested

Trust matters deeply in relationships, but it does not replace individual testing. Everyone’s body is different, and some infections take weeks to appear on tests. If either partner has had new contact since the last test, getting retested is a loving and responsible choice for both partners.

Fact: Testing is a form of care for yourself and your partner.

Myth 8: STIs Always Cause Pain or Symptoms

It is common to think that if you feel fine you must be infection-free. Unfortunately, many STIs do not show symptoms at all, even when they can still impact long-term health. Untreated infections like chlamydia or gonorrhea can lead to infertility or chronic pain, even without noticeable (or visible) symptoms.

Fact: Feeling fine does not guarantee you are infection-free. Regular testing protects your well-being.

Myth 9: STI Testing Is Complicated or Embarrassing

Many people feel anxious about testing, which is understandable. But in reality, testing is simple, private, and handled with care by trained health professionals. You can get tested at clinics, hospitals, or even with at-home kits. Providers do this everyday. Health providers are there to support you, not judge you.

Fact: STI testing is quick, confidential, and a normal part of health care.

Myth 10: Talking About STIs Ruins Relationships

For many, starting a conversation about sexual health feels scary. People worry about judgment, rejection, or anger. But in truth, these conversations often bring couples closer. Discussing testing, boundaries, and protection shows trust and maturity. You might try saying, “I care about both of us and want us to feel safe. When was your last test?” Compassionate honesty can deepen connection.

Fact: Caring conversations about sexual health strengthen relationships.

Replace Fear with Facts

More than ever, people have access to supportive tools that make sexual health feel safer and more private. The Love Hurts app brings together innovation and compassion by offering a secure, discrete space to learn about STIs, access mental health support, and notify partners anonymously when needed. Its thoughtful design helps reduce fear, encourages responsible choices, and supports people through moments that can feel overwhelming. When accurate information is easily accessible, myths lose their power and people gain confidence and clarity.

Misunderstandings about STIs can cause unnecessary loneliness, worry, and silence. But STIs are common, treatable, and nothing to be ashamed of. If you once believed any of these myths, you are not alone. Facts create understanding. Myths create fear. Choose knowledge, protect yourself, and support others with compassion.